One topic in particular keeps coming up with my couples; wedding etiquette myths. Majority of couples think that they must have all the traditional elements of a wedding incorporated into their big day. I have two things to say about this;
1. What an unnecessary headache if it doesn't mean anything to you
2. What a waste of money if it doesn't mean anything to you
I'm here to debunk some of these rumors of wedding must haves
- You don't have to have a flower girl or ring bearer. A lot of people don't have children that are close to them in their family or circle of friends
- You don't have to have a bridal party. For small weddings, I believe it's best not to have a large bridal party.
- You don't have to have a floral bouquet. Many brides are opting for non floral options like button and broach bouquets.
- You don't have to have an aisle runner. There are tons of venues that have a natural aisle that doesn't need a formal runner.
- Only the bride's father can give her away. I've seen many brides have both parents escort her down the aisle, or even a grandparent.
- You don't have to have a bouquet/garter toss at your reception. There are some wedding receptions that have very little single guests and this game can make the guest uncomfortable.
- The bride's parents are financially responsible for the entire wedding. There is no contractual obligation for anyone to pay for your wedding. However, if you're sticking to tradition, the groom's parents do have a list of things that they are responsible for ( See this post about who pays for what, traditionally speaking ).
- As taboo as it may seem to address, you don't have to be a virgin to wear white on your wedding day. A white wedding dress may compliment your complexion more than an ivory or blush gown would.
- You must have a dinner reception. Many couples find it more cost effective to have a brunch reception.
- You have to get married in a church. Many couples may have always dreamed of a beach ceremony, or can only afforded to wed at the same venue holding their reception.
- The groom does not have to wear a tux. It is perfectly fine if the groom would rather don a chic suit.
- You don't have to register for gifts. If you're opposed to receiving gifts as a wedding gift, it is perfectly acceptable you ask your guests to donate to a charity of your choosing.
I hope this helps ease some of those feelings that you must go through the whole ordeal of having a lot of things incorporated into your wedding that either don't mean a lot to you or that aren't in the budget.